Revelations

[phrasemuffin]

So, today I thought I would share a revelation that I had this morning.

Sex for the sake of sex, or to prove that you truly do subscribe to a particular sexuality, does not count as sex. It is not based on attraction, chemistry, lust, love, or whatever you want to call it. It is based on how strong your will is, and how much you want/need to prove to others that you can do it.

The level of hormones a teenager has pumping through their blood and what that does to one's sex drive has a similarly negating effect. Especially in males. A male, in the right (or wrong) circumstance, can succumb to the need while ignoring particular environmental factors, whether they are gay or straight.

For this reason, I'm changing my status from "bi" to "gay".

This is definitely something I'm going to have to tell Peter. When I told him I was bi, he came out with that whole "the bisexual male is a myth" load of crap. Personally, I don't believe that's true; I think that guys can be bi just as much as girls can. I just no longer think I can classify myself as bi.

Anyway, that's my big thing for today. Yay for being on break!

Comments

[highlyeccentric.livejournal.com]

I've been told by people who ought to know these things that 'gay' or 'bi' or 'straight' or 'queer' and so forth are not things you have to qualify for, but things you chose to identify as. So if you think you want to identify as 'gay' despite having some tendancies in the other direction at times, that's an identity choice not a qualification.

[phrasemuffin.livejournal.com]

"people who ought to know these things" should include the entire population. Though I do have to disagree with "things you chose to identify as" - I don't think it's a choice; you either identify with them or you don't. Choice, in that context, makes me think of a straight person choosing to identify as gay, for god only knows what reason.

Anyway, my point is this: thanks =D

[highlyeccentric.livejournal.com]

no, i mean the label is something you chose to identify as based on who you find yourself attracted to... i did meet a woman once who was only attracted to men and still identified as 'queer' can't get my head around that; another friend, the person who ought to know these things, identifies as 'queer' rather than gay or bi because it's less divisive and means she doesn't have to explain away the fact that she used to date men and now she dates women.

[phrasemuffin.livejournal.com]

Ah, ok. Well, I figured you had a point, and a good one at that (and hey, it turns out you did XP), which is why I thanked you in advance of my working it out :P.

[highlyeccentric.livejournal.com]

see, i'm naturally brilliant.