So, today I thought I would share a revelation that I had this morning.

Sex for the sake of sex, or to prove that you truly do subscribe to a particular sexuality, does not count as sex. It is not based on attraction, chemistry, lust, love, or whatever you want to call it. It is based on how strong your will is, and how much you want/need to prove to others that you can do it.

The level of hormones a teenager has pumping through their blood and what that does to one's sex drive has a similarly negating effect. Especially in males. A male, in the right (or wrong) circumstance, can succumb to the need while ignoring particular environmental factors, whether they are gay or straight.

For this reason, I'm changing my status from "bi" to "gay".

This is definitely something I'm going to have to tell Peter. When I told him I was bi, he came out with that whole "the bisexual male is a myth" load of crap. Personally, I don't believe that's true; I think that guys can be bi just as much as girls can. I just no longer think I can classify myself as bi.

Anyway, that's my big thing for today. Yay for being on break!

From: [identity profile] mcaries.livejournal.com


Woo, go David! (:

I agree, guys can be bi just as much as girls can. In fact, I honestly do believe that all people are bi just on different levels, as in that scale that I suddenly forgot the name of.

From: [identity profile] phrasemuffin.livejournal.com


Are you talking about the scale developed by that guy who did the sex study? Wrote several books and had a film made about him recently, in which he was played by Liam Neeson?

I'm still gayer than I am straight, though :P

From: [identity profile] mcaries.livejournal.com


Possibly, I have no idea. :P It sounds like the guy, though!

Yeah, I am too. The female anatomy does absolutely nothing for me.

From: [identity profile] phrasemuffin.livejournal.com


Lol. Me either... most of the time. There are a few instances, mind you, where it will. But they are few and far between, and probably not based on anything real... if that makes any sense :S

From: [identity profile] highlyeccentric.livejournal.com


Kinsey.

congratulations on your revelation :D That's some important things to realise about sex, as well as about sexuality.

From: [identity profile] phrasemuffin.livejournal.com


That's the one :D

Thanks... the only problem is that, everytime I make up my mind about these sorts of things, my brain tells me I'm oh so very wrong and tries to re-reverse my position on things. Of course, I still believe everything I said about the lack of proof in such deeds, but my conclusion of complete gayness is now being attacked. Maybe Andrew ([livejournal.com profile] citizenerased) has it right when he says he's "homosexual with heterosexual tendancies", which just rounds off to "gay".

From: [identity profile] highlyeccentric.livejournal.com


I've been told by people who ought to know these things that 'gay' or 'bi' or 'straight' or 'queer' and so forth are not things you have to qualify for, but things you chose to identify as. So if you think you want to identify as 'gay' despite having some tendancies in the other direction at times, that's an identity choice not a qualification.

From: [identity profile] phrasemuffin.livejournal.com


"people who ought to know these things" should include the entire population. Though I do have to disagree with "things you chose to identify as" - I don't think it's a choice; you either identify with them or you don't. Choice, in that context, makes me think of a straight person choosing to identify as gay, for god only knows what reason.

Anyway, my point is this: thanks =D

From: [identity profile] highlyeccentric.livejournal.com


no, i mean the label is something you chose to identify as based on who you find yourself attracted to... i did meet a woman once who was only attracted to men and still identified as 'queer' can't get my head around that; another friend, the person who ought to know these things, identifies as 'queer' rather than gay or bi because it's less divisive and means she doesn't have to explain away the fact that she used to date men and now she dates women.

From: [identity profile] phrasemuffin.livejournal.com


Ah, ok. Well, I figured you had a point, and a good one at that (and hey, it turns out you did XP), which is why I thanked you in advance of my working it out :P.

From: [identity profile] phrasemuffin.livejournal.com


I told you I was bi. I think it was that time on MSN when I told you I thought you were heaps wise because of your view on labels and sexuality. And if not, I'm fairly certain I've mentioned thinking that calling myself bi sounds like a cop-out for various reasons.

Besides, it's in my user info. Maybe not here, but definitely on Last.FM.

Yeah, but you aren't that hard to fool :P

From: [identity profile] citizenerased.livejournal.com


Ahh yess yess... bi is such a silly label in all honesty though. All labels are. But sometimes you really have to just generalise yourself for others and pidgeon hole yourself for the sake of going "Oh yes but I'm a homosexual with heterosexual tendancies" and confusing the fuck out of everybody and send strange weird signals this way and that. Sexuality is strange and quite unclassifiable the majority of the time as it extends much deeper than just one word, but for conversational purposes, they suffice.

HAHA, me hard to fool? :P Yeah... right! What alternative universe do you come from? I seem to recall batman signals...!!!

From: [identity profile] phrasemuffin.livejournal.com


Yeah, I know what you mean. Labels suck. They're just time-savers, and general-idea givers.

And yes, I too seem to remember something vague about confusion involving the bat signal. But that's just how I am with friends sometimes. I'm way too shy to actually flirt on purpose... most of the time. And I'd like to go on record as saying that I think some things were read into a little too deeply. Like the "Hot photo, dude" comment. I can't help it if the truth sounds like flirting. But that doesn't mean I was flirting.

Something to think about, mister.

From: [identity profile] citizenerased.livejournal.com


It honestly didn't phase me dude. And I've actually forgotten the majority of it which is just a testament to how miniscule it all was in the grand scheme of things imho (the only thing I remember actually is my batman comment... I was quite witty! :P). Take that as you will though, but I like you alot as a friend and don't particularly want you to go anywhere soon :)

And I'm not going to think about it, cause it's all the past :P

*jumps on your shoulders*

From: [identity profile] phrasemuffin.livejournal.com


And I've actually forgotten the majority of it. That's actually kinda annoying, because you never told me what it was that I'd said/done, and I always wondered. I'm always curious about how people see me. That's why I ask people if/why they thought I was gay. Ellis is the only person who's ever been able to give me a solid answer, and even then it was nothing I could really work with. :(

And how could you not like me heaps? I am, in all honesty, pretty damn awesome :P. Then again, so are you. So you're not allowed to go anywhere either, k?

*piggie-back rides*

From: [identity profile] aquat1cf1sh.livejournal.com


Oooo, Davie shares his wise words of wisdom. Very true what you said. *nod*

I'm bi, and I find that the urge to go in one direction or other changes almost every day. It's like choosing between two delicious pieces of cake that both look good but you can only have one, and yeah.

From: [identity profile] phrasemuffin.livejournal.com


Haha! Lovin' the alliteration there, Til :P

You make it sound like you're a pendulum, swinging between gay and straight :P A hungry pendulum, mind you, but a pendulum all the same. But do you ever just feel like you could go both ways, or is it always a case of "I feel more like __, today"?

From: [identity profile] aquat1cf1sh.livejournal.com


Yeah, it's like a pendulum almost. I think generally I always want to go both ways, but every day the urge to go in one direction or the other is stronger than the other. Type of thing like that. I'm not making sense. >.o

But yeah, it's like a pendulum!

From: [identity profile] desi-pixie.livejournal.com


I never knew you were bi / gay!

Im glad you realized this though :D

You should be expecting a Massive Desi _ Pixie Entry in the near future.

:D

-- D__Pixx has been meaning to catch up with everyone

From: [identity profile] phrasemuffin.livejournal.com


Haha. Yeah, I posted about being bi around a year or two ago I think. And now this.

Someone hasn't been checking their Grammar Crisis Room staff newsletter... tsk tsk *wags finger* :P

YAY FOR THE EVENTUAL RETURN OF THE PIXIE! XD

From: [identity profile] desi-pixie.livejournal.com


I havent been obsessively reading back that far, Sorry about that.

Staff newsletter hasnt been reaching my MAILBOX :O

YAY!!

From: [identity profile] phrasemuffin.livejournal.com


Lol! I didn't expect you to :P I was just saying.

Hey, what happened to the picture post?!?!
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